Well, I'm finally going to tell you what the decisions were, because I'm a nice person. Also, because I'm me, I'm going to tell you about the decision making process as well. Along the way, I might even share some photos. You are welcome, Gentle Readers.
Let's start off with the biggest thing, the theme: "We're on a budget."I shit you not, that is our theme. Our goal in that theme is to do things as efficiently as possible without looking cheap, but also without breaking the bank. We've been asked a lot of questions about a lot of details and when Teh German looks at me, I look at the asker and say, "We're on a budget." Chairs? We're on a budget. Flowers? We're on a budget. Favors? We're on a budget. Save the dates/invitations? We're on a budget. Venue? We're on a budget. Photography? We're kinda on a budget. Photobooth? Taken care of.
We did pick out some colors though:
medium-to-dark blue, medium-to-dark green, and medium-to-dark purple.
We're obviously weddin' pros now.
Oh yeah, our budget is $10,000.
Before you have a heart attack (like we almost did), just think about how many times I went to Disney last year. Yeah, all those dollars that went to Disney in 2016 are going towards wedding in 2017. Plus that vacation we took to Germany in 2016? More dollars allotted towards the 2017 wedding. Additionally, things from 2016 that we saved for, we have achieved, so some of those dollars are also now able to be put towards the wedding fund. We know we'll be sacrificing vacations for a huge party, but we've decided it's worth it.
The guest listOur guest list is a very organic thing. What started out as less than 70 people is now over 150. But, we also realize that not everyone we invite will be able to come, that's the way it works and that is completely understandable. The biggest factor in our guest list is if Germans would come all the way to America for our wedding.
We didn't straight out ask and assumed that we'd probably need to do an American and German celebration. The official one in America (since it's easier), then a reception of sorts for the Germans that didn't attend the US event. I was panicking about this because that sounded to me like $$$$$.
When we found out that Germans were willing to make the trip, I asked for a date range that worked best for them in the fall. 1- Summer in Charleston is the worst. I don't even want to be in Charleston during the summer, there's no way I'd want guests to come and be miserable here as well. 2- If the Germans were willing to come to the US, I was willing to work with them on a date. 3- A date range from the Germans would eliminate soooo many possibilities!
Papa G told us that 10/27-11/3 would work best for them. I could work with that.
If you look at that picture closely, you will see that we are getting married on a Wednesday. Weird, you say. I know, right!?! Back to the biggest thing, "We're on a budget." I'm not sure if this applies in place that aren't Charleston, but here to get married on a weekend during October/November, it is often several hundred dollars to double the price of a Monday-Thursday event. Sundays are usually slightly cheaper than a Saturday event, but not as low as the price of a M-Th event. I'll break this down more in the venue post.
After getting the 3 big things sorted out, things really started falling into place and we were able to make decisions, which I promise I will tell you about soon.